1. Normalize. Realize that your anxious thoughts, constant worry, even intrusive thoughts, can be normal symptoms of a postpartum mood issue. Much like a runny nose is the sign of a cold, these thoughts are just a symptom of your condition, nothing more. They don't have to do with what kind of mother you are.
2. Practice self-compassion. Imagine you are telling a good friend about your situation. How would she react? Would she say comforting and supportive things? Now practice saying those things to yourself. If you are already feeling down or worried about your situation, talking to yourself in a critical or shameful way will not help you heal. Be kind with yourself, most likely you are doing the best you can!
3. Practice self-care. Self-care is not indulgent; it is a necessary part of maintaining your mental health. Self-care looks different for every mom, and if you're not sure where to start, try a few things and see what works for you.
4. Ask for help. Ask your partner, mom, sister, friends, community, and therapist. Where there is greater support, symptoms of postpartum mood issues decrease.